Living the Queen’s Code – Alison Armstrong

What if there’s a single source underlying your struggles and heartache with men? Through eight diverse and surprising characters, reveal your own beliefs about men and relationships. Discover what you are willing to risk to understand men and women.

In this session, you’ll:

• Find out the mysterious process by which this story revealed itself to the author
• Learn how to use the eight characters of The Queen’s Code to see your blind spots about yourself and the opposite sex
• Be provoked and inspired to engage in your own self-reflection: to articulate what you need in relationships; what you can’t live without; and how your own strategies and dreams conflict
• Begin questioning what you believe about men, trust and communication
• Decide if you’re going be the kind of woman who turns Frogs into Princes, or keeps turning Princes into Frogs

As Karen and Kimberlee (in The Queen’s Code ebook) embark on their journey to understand men, they find out what’s at the source of their frustration, anger, hurt and disappointment with men. And yet, like real women, it’s hard to let go… yet, it seems we have no better alternative.

In this session, you’ll:

• Explore the effects of your inherited point-of-view in every interaction and relationship in your life
• Find out how your expectations of other people damage your self-esteem
• See how female instincts compel us to contort, suppress and conceal the essence of who we are, while driving us to exhaustion
• Begin to confront the fundamentals of being a Frog Farmer: a woman who brings out the worst in men

Without consciously choosing to do so, every woman learns to emasculate men. It seems like the ultimate way to regulate, train and motivate them, while protecting ourselves from unchecked testosterone. Our culture condones, even promotes, emasculation. But what if it’s causing men to respond to women in the exact opposite way we really want and need?

In this session, you’ll:

• Find out which Queen’s Code character you most resemble in your approach to emasculation — are you stealthy or nuclear? Cancerous or hit-and-run?
• See the short- and long-term effects of emasculation in your relationships
• Discover how you emasculate more than men — including other women and yourself
• Learn how emasculation and objectification trigger each other
• Explore the four layers of protection against criticism
• Find out if you’re ready to lay down the sword and take on being in partnership with men, women and your best self

If criticism and complaining never motivate men, what does? In The Queen’s Code ebook, as Claudia teaches Kimberlee and Karen the first word in “The Language of Heroes,” you’ll begin challenging your ability to receive from men. You’ll also find out what’s at the heart of every man.

In this session, you’ll:

• Embrace what it means to be a feelings-based organism and learn how to use those feelings powerfully
• Learn to focus on the result instead of the process — and end up with more of what you need
• Find out what you should be taking personally, and never do
• Start asking others for what you need in a way that inspires and appreciates
• Zero in on how men are already taking care of you in ways that you may have never noticed

From the very beginning of The Queen’s Code story, Kimberlee is terrified of talking to Claudia about sex. In this module, you’ll sympathize with her squirming while Mike and Karen articulate what sex provides in a long-term relationship, as they learn about Delicious Sexual Partnerships. And then you’ll share in Kimberlee’s healing as Claudia reveals what she’s always known.

In this session, you’ll:

• Examine your own attachment to wanting sex in order to have it
• Begin to articulate what sex provides for you, in every context
• Learn the variety of “Jump Starts” we’ve discovered in men and women
• Explore your own Pumpkin Hours, whether they be daily, seasonal or circumstantial
• Validate what you need to be happy to receive and provide sexual attention

All of the information and attitude adjustments revealed in The Queen’s Code thus far lead Karen and Kimberlee up to this point. Finally, they learn how men relate to their needs as well how men relate to their own needs. This knowledge gives them the key to receiving their Heart’s Desire, without having to deserve it first.

In this session, you’ll:

• Learn the easiest ways to translate your needs into clear and compelling requests
• Find out the top 3 things that will prevent a man from providing for you
• Begin making deals that transform your daily life into a source of joy and empowerment
• Confront the most important question you can ask yourself and your partner

Our friends can break our hearts, too. In this chapter of The Queen’s Code, as Kimberlee and Karen learn two more words in “The Language of Heroes,” Kimberlee discovers how far she has come from being a very successful Frog Farmer. Transformed to her core, the chasm between her and her best friend comes to a dramatic conclusion.

In this session, you’ll:

• See where you set people up to lose by not asking for help soon enough
• Come to terms with a predictable lecture that you likely give to men
• Begin recognizing who in your life is “Yes, what?” to your needs
• Learn where “Accountability” is sucking the life out of you
• Examine your own relationship to men being emasculated

In this final session, see if you can recognize the soul of a man. Are you willing to honor who they want to be for you? Claim your own growth and accomplishments as Queen’s Code characters Claudia, Karen and Kimberlee step into the next adventures of their lives.

In this session, you’ll:

• Learn how to sort your accountabilities so you feel energized and empowered
• Confront your own challenges with the sixth word in “The Language of Heroes”
• Notice the heroes in your life — in events big and small.
• Acknowledge how you have transformed your life and relationships with men
• Share your victories with Alison
• Take on what’s next for you in living the Queen’s Code of Honor