Social Heartistry Academy–Week 3 – John Cooper

You ‘open‘ with “hello” and ‘transition‘ the strategy into asking her for a dance by touching her hand and she ‘rejects‘ you and gives you that look.

You feel ashamed, but at the same time a sense of relief, because you did your mission and it is now over. You go home thinking: Obviously, I need to practice my “game” more. Shit, my friends are going to ask me if I had success and results that night.

Sound painfully familiar?

“Pick Up” works like a drug. It is a quick fix for a problem deeply seated inside. You feel a sense of lack and pain, and you quickly go out and seek someone to get away from your pain.

You want someone to fill the hole within you, either consciously or subconsciously. The dating industry won’t tell you this, because the sugar rush of “getting laid” is more appealing and marketable than the hard reality of self-exploration and working through emotional pain.

Also most of these organisations and their coaches are so deep in pain themselves that they know no other way.

So what happens? You finally capture a women, feel good for a fleeting moment and you then quickly need your next hit.

This process has no end in the Pick Up paradigm.

We are starved of women, we need them, we need sex, we find a community promising us a sexual utopia – so long as we follow their how-to guide.

However, chasing girls with the acquisition mindset, will push you further and further down the rabbit hole of :

99% of the dating world is founded upon the notion that success is “getting” laid. The more you get laid, the better you are with women. The less you’re getting laid, the more of a loser you are.

Falling back can be more painful because when you start to understand and feel the concepts presented in The Social Heartistry Online Academy deeply, with your soul, you liberate yourself from tons of anxiety.

When you switch on the Pick Up mindset again (even Natural Game) you start to feel the anxiety again and you chain yourself back to the PUA prison walls.

Falling back can be more painful because when you start to understand and feel Social Heartistry deeply, with your soul, you liberate yourself from tons of anxiety. When you switch on the Pick Up mindset again (even Natural Game) you start to feel the anxiety again and you chain yourself back to the PUA prison walls.

EVEN WITHIN THE MOST EVOLVED TYPE OF “NATURAL” GAME YOU HAVE A SPECIFIC GOAL TO ACQUIRE GIRLS. YOU NEED A RESULT TO ACHIEVE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT AND FEEL BALANCED. INSIDE WE KNOW WE DON’T WANT TO TAKE FROM OTHERS TO FEED OURSELVES AND SO ANXIETY COMES UP EVERYTIME WE SEE A GIRL “TARGET”. YOU WANT TO BE HONEST AND USE “NATURAL GAME” BUT YOU KNOW DEEP DOWN THAT ALL TYPES OF GAME ARE WRONG BECAUSE THE BASELINE OF GAME IS TO ACQUIRE.

Imagine now you went out for the night with a group of friends and just wanted to have fun. You don’t feel any pressure to “cold approach” and get “results” because you feel completely at ease, and have this new intention for the evening.

You guys are goofing around and totally immersed in the atmosphere of the night.

Then you all feel hungry for a snack. You sit down at a table to eat and you notice that two good looking girls are sat next to you.

So you extend that fun you’re having out to them. It’s unconditional, it’s an offering and it’s so light and fluid that you do not even have the time to realize that you are deep into a fun conversation with them.

There is no “building attraction” or any other strategy.

You add her on Facebook, as you are off to continue your night. An hour or so later you remember to message them and they join your group. They want to too, because you’re the rare breed of guy that’s not in pac man mode, and they feel safe and warm and attracted.

You laugh together, flirt, hug, and kiss. You have a GREAT VIBE between you two. She’s that kind of girl you want to see again. And you do. All in all, a fantastic carefree night of fun and enjoyment and the girl you met was just a nice perk.

You felt whole and autonomous, and totally content with or without her. This way it was so effortlessthat you eventually did not have to perform and do anything to “get” her.

This is THE SOCIAL HEARTISTRY way.

In The Social Heartistry Online Academy we focus primarily with the relationship with ourselves. Healing the pain and emptiness inside and learning to be totally happy and fulfilled without the need for women.

Desiring women is fine.

Taking masculine action is fine. Craving for women like a starved wolf and needing sex is certainly not. If you can embody concepts presented in this progam, as a side effect the right women will be more into you than ever before.

As a result human relationships will not be a source of using each other to run away from our pain, but a place of beautiful and honest relations motivated by co-creation.

Simply put:

You can have happiness and create intimacy with girls at the same time being fulfilled long-term.

The Social Heartistry Online Academy is a the last program about women that you will need, period. It transcends the pick-up paradigm, and introduces a new simplified way of seeing the world. Instead of learning hundreds of different techniques, you will learn the overarching principles that make success with women as well as any other area of life possible.