The Ten Agreements for Evolving Women – Elizabeth Debold & Mary Adams

In this session you will:

• Awaken to a perspective that frees you from who you have been and opens new potentials for your life.
• Differentiate between a psychological and evolutionary perspective.
• Experience a deeper motivation that is both personal and aligned with the cosmic process.

Agreement 1: I wholeheartedly embrace a philosophical and moral reference point for my life based in the truth that we are all the product of a process that has been evolving for 14 billion years. From this perspective, I live in the awareness that the evolutionary impulse that emerged from Nothing to create the entire universe is not separate from my deepest motivation to develop and I strive to align with it to consciously create the future.

In this session you will:

• Discover the timeless, genderless dimension of self that is the foundation of all of existence.
• Experience the freedom that is your fundamental birthright, and discover deep trust in life itself.
• Learn a simple but profound meditation that enables you to experience the timeless dimension of self essential to deep transformation.

Agreement 2: Before time, thought, feeling, gender, and relatedness, I exist as the Self Absolute. This doubtless knowledge of the truth of Spirit as the foundation of who I am liberates me from the existential fear and desire for security that have shaped women’s self-sense from the beginning of civilization.

In this session you will:

• Discover you are One with the cosmic evolutionary process, with which your consciousness is now aligning itself.
• Realize the importance of evolving your own consciousness, not only for yourself, but also for our future.
• Identify ways your sense of self has been shaped by being the “Other,” especially to men, and learn to step beyond this pattern.

Agreement 3: This entire cosmic process is One, and I am that One-as we each are-upon whom the future depends. Realizing that my transformation is the transformation of consciousness and culture, I take responsibility to consciously evolve so that, for the first time, women can deliberately define our co-creative role in culture.

In this session you will:

• Discover true liberation by understanding our history as women and the roles we’ve played in co-creating civilization with men.
• Learn the four most significant stages of cultural history that have shaped your identity.
• Develop the capacity to objectify and navigate unconscious motives and impulses conditioned by women’s history.Recognize the incredible power of choice we now have to become real change-makers as a result of the freedoms women have won over time.

Agreement 4:I recognize that I am indelibly shaped by history and bear the cellular and psychic imprint of the thousands of years in which women were dependent, subordinate, and too often subjected to violence. While embracing the complex reality of history, I reject the easy excuse of victimization. I vow to make conscious the effects of this history on the ways I act and relate, thereby liberating my capacity to choose and cutting a new path forward for all women.

In this session you will:

• Learn how procreation has shaped women’s psyche throughout history and continues to define our choices.
• Realize how we seek our self-confidence in the roles of mother and lover, despite the enormous freedom women enjoy in progressive cultures.
• Discover the difference between self-worth that comes from being wanted or needed by another and a deep self-confidence rooted in a fullness of self.

Agreement 5: While for thousands of years, the identity of woman has been inseparable from being mother or lover, I no longer build my fundamental sense of self and confidence on these roles that spring from woman’s biological function. While I may consciously choose to take on these roles or not, I am actively cultivating a self-confidence that comes from a deeper dimension of my self.

In this session you will:

• Explore what it means to cultivate a higher perspective, beyond emotions and feelings.
• Value and embody higher rational and creative capacities that have been historically discouraged in women.
• Learn how to catalyze your own evolutionary development by refusing to take things personally, and instead seeking clarity and objectivity through engagement with others.

Agreement 6: No matter how compelling my emotional experience may be, I strive for clarity and objectivity so that I can align my capacity for choice with a higher perspective. In this way, I am becoming aware of and transcending the often unconscious survival fears and impulses that undermine my autonomy, dignity, and spiritual strength.

In this session you will:

• Learn to differentiate between self-improvement and self-transformation in the context of perpetual development.
• Realize the power of reinterpreting – through an evolutionary perspective – how you relate to yourself, your life’s purpose, and your current capacities and potential.
• From an evolutionary perspective, identify and engage with the inertia that holds you back.

Agreement 7: Recognizing that I am the evolutionary process incarnate, I consciously act against the universal force of inertia that manifests in matter and exists in me as a deep tendency toward passivity. By doing so, I not only liberate spiritual energy, but create new positive habits or tendencies through ongoing and noble effort to transform myself physically, intellectually, and spiritually; thereby cultivating a deep self-respect for the privilege of being an evolving human.

In this session you will:

• Learn about the structures in our psyche created by our desire to please and be affirmed by others.
• Recognize patterns of dependency that keep us from realizing our own self worth.
• Discover the freedom to relate in ways undistorted by historically conditioned patterns in the female psyche.

Agreement 8: I stand alone, transparent and unselfconscious, without seeking to find my identity reflected in the eyes of others. Because I am not trying to uphold a self-image, I can fearlessly examine the core structures that have historically created the feminine personality and be free to relate in ways that are undistorted by them.

In this session you will:

• Become fearless in the face of conflicting emotions and motivations.
• Explore the part of yourself that longs for relationships based on honesty, directness and consistency.
• Awaken to a desire to express wholeness rooted in the profoundest depth of being.
• Identify a deeper purpose by recognizing that the future is in our hands and that we must live with moral integrity.

Agreement 9: Because I do not fear the range of motivations and impulses within me and am not interested in upholding an inauthentic, culturally constructed feminine persona, I act with honesty, directness and consistency and therefore, I strive to always be an expression of the fundamental wholeness that is the ground of all things.

In this session you will:

• Distinguish between having “great girlfriends” and creating an evolutionary sisterhood.
• Understand and take responsibility for self-defeating impulses and motives that arise as we begin to step into a new future.
• Learn that engaging at this level of change and transformation requires us to be deeply identified with the universal, and therefore, beyond gender.

Agreement 10: Despite superficial differences, I recognize that my sisters are my self. Only together can we each individually find the fearlessness, freedom, strength, and purpose to change the momentum of culture and history. We are bonded in a profound allegiance to a goal of transformation in which I can trust and be trusted to create an intersubjective transparency as the foundation of a world in which women and men are liberated from our habitual cultural roles.

Live Call #1: In the first live call with Mary and Elizabeth, you will gain a deeper understanding of the agreements and how to use one each week to free your evolutionary potential. During this session we will also review the logistical aspects of the course, and you will have the opportunity to ask any questions about the logistics or the material being covered.

Live Calls #2, 3 & 4: Here you’ll join Mary and Elizabeth for two live hour-long Q&A calls where you can bring your questions about the 10 Agreements and discover how you can deepen your experience and mastery of them.

Live Call #4: During your final integration session, Elizabeth and Mary will discuss how to really anchor these powerful teachings in your life moving forward so they are not just a concept but a way of being in the world.

You will also have the opportunity to:

• Share what has unfolded within you through the 10 Agreements experience
• Ask any remaining questions
• Discover how you can stay connected with the faculty and others in the community

Cindy Wigglesworth and Elizabeth Debold will discuss the idea of multiple intelligences and how their development tracks historically with human cultural evolution. The overall trajectory of humankind includes developing increasing capacities – including increasing intelligences.

Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) is perhaps the least understood of our multiple intelligences. Cindy has specialized in describing and researching this line of human development. She will explain what “SQ” is and how the 21 skills of spiritual intelligence were described. Cindy will also explain how her research shows a strong connection to stages of individual adult development. John Mackey, the co-CEO of Whole Foods Market has called SQ “the next frontier in leadership.”

Finally, Cindy and Elizabeth will discuss some of the tools Cindy has found most helpful in developing her own spiritual intelligence – including a process she calls “Spiritual Weightlifting.” You have heard each of these women speak separately – but you won’t want to miss the fun they have bouncing ideas off each other. This promises to be a rich and occasionally funny conversation!

Join integral spirituality and Zen teacher Diane Musho Hamilton for a hands-on opening to Big Heart. Through her warmth, humor and clarity, you will experience first-hand how the doorway of meditation leads straight to an experience of compassionate embrace of your whole life.

You will discover:

• The role compassion plays at the heart of all your spiritual work
• How your fearlessness is a direct result of meditation practice
• How your human development naturally expands to wider and wider circles of care

Diane Musho Hamilton is a uniquely gifted, playful, and awake group facilitator and teacher of Integral Spirituality and Zen. She is a lineage holder in the Soto Zen tradition, and has collaborated with the Integral Institute and Ken Wilber since 2004, developing the Integral Life Practice seminars and the Integral Spiritual Experience.

She has studied and practiced Buddhadharma for over 25 years, beginning at Naropa Institute in 1984 with the teachings of Choygam Trungpa Rinpoche. She was ordained as a Zen priest in 2003 and received dharma transmission from Genpo Roshi in 2006. She is a facilitator of Big Mind Big Heart, a process developed by Roshi to bring the insights of Zen to Western audiences.

With her husband, Zen teacher and lawyer Michael Mugaku Zimmerman, she established the Boulder Mountain Zendo, a center for the study and practice of Zen. They maintain two facilities – an urban center in downtown Salt Lake City, and a rural retreat center in the red rocks of Southern Utah where traditional Zen meditation is joined with nature-based practices and shamanic disciplines.

Love myths, those deeply felt ideas about successful relationships, get passed on and on for so many generations that we believe them simply because everyone always has. They’ve taken root in our consciousness the way all ancient tales, stories and legends do. In this hour, we will identify the myths of intimacy, sex and relationship we live by-and lose by-and learn why they are so toxic. Once we recognize, excavate and clear them away, we free our psyches to create our own unique stories, and to delight in our own idiosyncratic, quirky and imperfect personal relationships.

You will discover:

• Which passed-down love stories, relationship scripts and ideas about sexual intimacy live in your head and heart
• How to rid yourself of the inherited myths that inevitably leave you feeling confused, defective and shortchanged-as if you, or your partner(s), are “bad” at loving
• The radical act of creating your own unique and authentic script for intimacy, one that will assure the sexuality and connection you crave

Dalma Heyn’s nonfiction books, The Erotic Silence of The American Wife; Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives; and Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy, have been published in 34 languages and were bestsellers both here and abroad.

Dalma is a graduate of the University of Southern California and New York University (where she earned her Masters degree in Social Work). She is the former Editor-in-Chief of Health Magazine and Executive Editor of McCalls. Her monthly columns, “The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to Sex,” and “Smart Sex” appeared in Mademoiselle Magazine and New Woman Magazine.

Her essays, articles and columns, many on women’s issues, but also on culture and travel, have appeared widely. She lives in Connecticut with her husband, Richard Marek, with whom she has co-authored a new book of fiction, A Godsend: A Love Story for Grownups, available on all ebook platforms.

So often we want to say that it doesn’t matter — how we look, what people think of us, how attractive we are to men — but deep down there is so often a nagging insecurity. There’s that voice that keeps us constantly trying to please others while struggling to be ourselves.

Elizabeth Debold’s and Mary Adams’ work for women — born out of 18 years of intensive spiritual development among a collective of women — engages with transformation at the deepest level of our selves. In this audio seminar, they’ll show you how to go beyond the trap of trying to be attractive so that instead you can become an attractor — a focal point of energy, creativity and direction in which you are expressing a deeper purpose for your life.